Bird Droppings November 18, 2011
Only a crazy thought or two
Occasionally I will get a crazy thought; my students will say occasionally I have a normal thought that would be more like it. They would be insinuating most of my thoughts are crazy. However Today I was driving to school being lazy I slept in till about four I did go out much earlier to see the stars and half moon or what was left of it as it snuck behind the pines. But I sat down in my chair and thought what if when we were born the hospital tattooed on your left foot made in whatever country and a hospital code for example and then underneath an expiration date. The expiration date being the exact moment and day and year you will die or expire. If I knew this information I started thinking at what point would I change how I lived.
My students were arguing with me about living it up since a few weeks back it was my birthday and I was getting old sixty two to them is a lifetime away which is true. They wanted me to have a, you only live once and rock and roll party etc. So I was wondering knowing exactly how many days you have to do whatever it is you will do would you change anything. I am sure back in years gone by there have been people I have hurt and things perhaps I regret as I distance myself but would I be who I am without those moments and pieces to my puzzle.
“There is not any present moment that is unconnected with some future one. The life of every man is a continued chain of incidents, each link of which hangs upon the former. The transition from cause to effect, from event to event, is often carried on by secret steps, which our foresight cannot divine, and our sagacity is unable to trace. Evil may at some future period bring forth good; and good may bring forth evil, both equally unexpected.” Joseph Addison
It has been some time since I first used the concept of a puzzle to explain my own life. A constant display of pieces falling into place each interconnected to the next. As I speak with people I use this comparison, often showing how each aspect of our lives ties to the next. I look at how a consequence comes from even the smallest of things. Knowing we have a limited amount of time to finish our puzzle I find amazing as I think of what if we still had no directions and were floundering in trying to get done.
“There are no rewards or punishments — only consequences.” Dean William R. Inge
“Whatever our creed, we feel that no good deed can by any possibility go unrewarded, no evil deed unpunished.” Orison Swett Marden
We have to take each piece as it comes and try and build upon it. Each element leads to the next, a building block of sorts, as we travel through life, a deed leads to a consequence and then to another and another, each beyond the next.
“Men must try and try again. They must suffer the consequences of their own mistakes and learn by their own failures and their own successes.” Lawson Purdy
“It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.” Sir Joseph Stamp
As I wonder about my words and events that yet will play out today, I daily use the term ABC, Antecedent, Behavior, and Consequence. In life, everything we do involves these three elements. Each aspect of our existence is preceded by an event, a happening that causes the behavior, no matter how subtle that event is. The behavior in turn leads to a consequence this is so simple, so clean and it can be cold. Perhaps why I enjoy Carl Jung over Sigmund Freud. We respond and soon cover up, ABC. What if we could analyze all events so simply and plan our day. I do this, then that, this, then that all day long however, conversely we tend to do this with students as well, if we see an event about to happen we can change the antecedent and alter behavior and of course the consequence. Managers in business do this. Retailers are doing it as we sit and read, altering our buying for this holiday season sales, specials and Black Friday etc. In reality through consequence the world is controlled. How do we keep our heads up and still be unique, independent?
“Independence I have long considered as the grand blessing of life, the basis of every virtue; and independence I will ever secure by contracting my wants, though I were to live on a barren heath.” Mary Wollstonecraft
It was a many months back I was introduced to Mary Wollstonecraft, a person who was ahead of her time, the ultimate feminist. Mary was writing about issues under her name and pen names, often a man’s name to get her point out. Her fire and zeal were passed on to her daughter Mary Shelly who penned the novel Frankenstein. How do we maintain within the struggle, to be who we are.
“I keep my ideals, because in spite of everything I still believe that people are really good at heart.” Anne Frank
“Ideals are like the stars: we never reach them, but like the mariners of the sea, we chart our course by them.” Carl Schurz
How do we? I was thinking yesterday about my own direction in life one day going here and there and a slight bump and left turn and heading elsewhere. Do we have focal points to guide us stars as Schurz states? Can we find our way home when we get lost in life? I wonder at times even as pieces of the great puzzle fall into place maybe the pieces are wrong, maybe this is not where I am to be. But as events slow down and the fog clears we can see even the most confusing of life’s events seems to work out. I was reading yesterday a new book, Spirits of The Earth by Bobby Lake Thom. He starts the book with a prayer that I would like to end with today especially going into the Thanksgiving season.
“I ask that you bless our elders and children, families and friends, and the brothers and sisters that are in prison. I pray for the ones sick on drugs and alcohol, and for those who are homeless and forlorn. I pray for peace among the four races of mankind. May there be good healing for this earth. May there be beauty above me. May there be beauty below me. May there be beauty in me. May there be beauty all around me. I ask that our world be filled with peace, love and beauty.” Medicine Grizzly Bear, 1990
So easy to sit and write, yet around us, so much going on would we change anything if we knew our expiration date, I wonder? Please keep all in harm’s way on your minds and in your hearts.